Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Pole dance is for everyBODY ~ #myfatwashere

November 2012
Recently, I saw in an article where someone said pole dancing isn't for everybody.  Ain't that the truth.  I would, however, like to talk about why I believe pole dancing IS for everyBODY.

It is unfortunate that the stereotype for those with larger bodies is that the person is lazy, makes horrible food decisions and doesn't care about their own well-being or their appearance.  Certainly, that may be true of some fat people, but it is also very true of many thin people.  Body size doesn't dictate the state of one's health -- mentally or physically.  

April 2013
Regardless of what made me, you, or anyone else fat, let's talk about what our fat bodies can do once we're there.  Some of us do not exercise.  Perhaps it is a choice.  Perhaps it is forced upon us by health issues.  That is not anyone else's business.  However, if you DO choose movement for your body, here are some reasons pole dancing might be the right exercise for you: 

~ Although there are many tricks that require what seems like super-human strength, there are also many pretty twirls and spins that can be done without ever leaving the floor. 

~ Dancing makes you feel happy.
August 2012

~ Floorwork is one of the best workouts I've ever done.  

~ Meaty thighs can be strong thighs.  Same thing goes for those arms.  Who knew I would be the queen of doing handstands?  Sure, I don't feel like I use my abs to properly lift into the handstand, but I can kick into it and I'm improving on form and technique every single time I do one. 

~ The best way to gain strength is to do things that require you to use your muscles.  So many people tell me they'll try pole dancing when they lose ten pounds (lost weight doesn't equal gained strength either).  Don't wait to live your life.  Try the things you want to try RIGHT NOW.  Sure, you may not be able to do all of the things that other people in class are doing, but it isn't a contest.  And you will gain strength and stamina the more you dance.


February 2013
There are a ton of people who pretend to be supportive of larger people getting active or "being healthy."  They give the high-fives at the gym (not necessary, thanks).  They offer kudos and diet advice if they see you eating a salad (most definitely not welcome).  (By the way, I eat salad drowned in ranch dressing, so that burger probably would have been a "better" choice if we're talking strict calories, plus it would have at least given me some extra protein.)  They post condescending "fitspiration" memes on Facebook, thinking they can shame fatties into compliance.  Please just take a step back and realize you're talking to or looking down on another human.  Someone who gets up every day and puts their shoes on one at a time, just like you.  Someone who also has to figure out how to pay the bills and make the most out of life.  Instead of sneering that the fatty at the gym who has rolls that offend you, look the other way and move on without the condescending comment or look of pity.

April 2013

Am I inverting and Iron-X'ing like I secretly hoped I'd be able to do when I started pole dancing four years ago?  No.  Not even close.  Did I know I'd have a major foot injury and surgery in my future that would slow me down and even send me backwards in my progress?  No.  But do I keep showing up every day to try to get stronger and better?  Yes I do.  And if there are those who want to sit up on a high horse looking down at me because I dare to be a fatty trying to keep my body moving, so be it.  I can't control what other people think of me, I can only control how I respond to public comments.  So I generally don't respond.  


February 2013
If you would like to try pole dancing, but haven't because you are shy or you believe you don't have the "right" body type, I would encourage you to find a studio with an instructor who understands you.  Your body might not move in the same way as other bodies.  You may have injuries, or health issues that require some modifications (hello, if you have high blood pressure, don't go upside down!).  But with the right supportive community, pole dance IS for everyBODY.  




 
If you need help finding a class, please let me know.  I have a large network of pole dancers from around the world and can help find the right class for you.

October 2013

PDBA's November Pole Photo Challenge

I have been really excited posting photos from PDBA's October photo challenge.  I am hoping to get even more pole dancers involved.  If you pole dance, please join our Facebook fan page and start uploading those photos!  

Read HERE for the instructions on how to participate.  You can also get ideas for your photos.  

Here are the challenges for November:



Now post away!!!



Friday, October 18, 2013

Here we go again... @SFBART #BARTstrike (yeah, in case you weren't sure, I'm mad)

In July, the San Francisco Bay Area endured a five-day BART strike.  (Well, four and a half.  What some idiots didn't get is that, if I came in on the ferry, I had to leave by the ferry since I was parked there.  But, who's counting?)

In August, they were poised to do it again.  The Governor of California called for a 60-day cooling off period.  As of Thursday, October 10 (or maybe Friday, I don't know...it's all starting to run together now), the cooling off period ended and BART employees threatened to strike again.  Funny how fast 60 days pass you by...you look up, realize you haven't been doing your homework, and you try to cram two months worth of it into two days.  Great job.  The lead negotiator was paid, what, $400,000 for a four month contract?  How many vacations did he take?  How do I apply for that job?

People kept saying, oh they won't strike!  The governor won't let that happen!  (A)  He's a union guy, he believes in the process.  (B)  He blew his load.  That 60-day cooling off period was it.  BART and the unions needed to work their differences out, and that wasn't happening.  If he HAD come in and tried to stop it again, he'd be over-stepping his bounds, even though it does certainly affect the entire area (reportedly, $73 million per day in lost revenue each day BART is on strike). 

We all went to bed early Thursday night, expecting to get up Friday morning bright and early in case BART was on strike.  The alarm goes off at 4:30 AM...alas!  NO STRIKE!  (No deal either, though...they were still "negotiating.")  I can "sleep in" until 6!  (That's actually a lie, I was so irritated that the strike was a possibility again that I couldn't sleep so I was awake at midnight or 1 AM when when the KCBS text came through and so I switched my alarm then...but I still didn't sleep well and woke up the next morning pretty cranky.)  We play that game again Sunday night.  Then Monday night.  Tuesday.  Wednesday.  Every night.  Those jerks waiting until late in the night to tell people whether they had a ride to work the next day or not.  Thursday.  Finally.  On Thursday.  The official strike is announced.

Meanwhile, a reported $200,000 per day is being spent on bus cancellation fees, as BART keeps lining up buses to take a small percentage of passengers to work each day.  What does BART care, though?  That doesn't come out of their pocket.  That comes out of the transportation fund (I believe mostly bridge tolls?  I'm hoping it's not from taxes.  Still...it's a huge waste of money.  Over a million bucks spent in a week?)

Are you effing kidding me?  BART and the unions jerk us around for a week, making us think they are actually working things out, and they STRIKE?!  Thanks a lot, BART ("BART" used collectively throughout to curse the entity, the unions and the employees).  So 200,000 daily BART commuters** (plus the rest of the Bay Area since the roads, the ferries, buses and all other modes of transportation will be packed) are affected so that a little over 2,000 people can bitch and whine about their jobs?  Totally seems fair.  (**Often I see news sources say there are 400,000 daily BART commuters but I understand this is a round-trip total.  I read a statistic today that BART only carries 5% of the daily commute load...pretty mind blowing if you think about how small that number is but how great the damage when they strike.) 


Sitting sideways...this bus wasn't made for six foot tall girls
So, this morning, I got up at 4:30 AM and left my house by 5:30.  I drove to Walnut Creek BART station to catch a free shuttle (last strike, on the Friday after 4th of July holiday, all buses were gone from WC BART by 6 AM, so I wasn't taking that chance...this time around, there appeared to be more buses or more people telecommuting because I understand there were buses available until close to 8 AM).  I got on a tiny bus built for tiny people, not Viking Warriors.  My seat mate wasn't my biggest fan, but I didn't make him sit next to me.  The ride to San Francisco took about an hour.  So, it's 7 AM and I got to watch a beautiful sunrise in the City.  I don't technically start work until 9, although I know my office will be somewhat sympathetic to our plight.  I grabbed some breakfast and showed up to work an hour early.  I will get to leave early, but it's barely noon and I'm ready for a serious nap and am not looking forward to the clusterf@#% going home.  I understand we will get on a bus in San Francisco, then get off in West Oakland to wait for a bus to Walnut Creek.  My boss has taken pity on me and said we can check in at 2 or 3 PM so I can leave early.  

Oh and by the way, thank God I work in the City.  For those East Bay commuters just trying to get from Oakland to Walnut Creek/Concord, or anyone needing to get from San Francisco to the East Bay, there don't appear to be many options for you...BART just wants you to know: in every war there are casualties.  

After today, things get interesting.  I have a friend coming from out of state, who will, completely coincidentally, be staying at the hotel directly across the street from my office.  She has graciously offered me room to stay with her.  However...parking in San Francisco isn't cheap.  At that hotel, the parking is $52 to $79 per night.  I did find a lot down the street that offers overnight parking for $38.  She would like to come to Twirly Girls with me, which means I have to drive.  No free shuttle for us (see, since she didn't get on the bus in Walnut Creek in the morning, I can't sneak her on to the bus home that night).  That means I have to drive to work Monday, pay to park, drive to Twirly Girls in Pleasanton, drive back to the city before 10 PM (since the lot stops accepting new cars then; and class doesn't get out until 9 PM), pay to park again, spend the night in the hotel (convenient for not losing sleep but your routine does get messed up), go to work, then drive home the next day (or continue to pay for parking and stay with my friend for the week).  

So many people are saying WE the RIDERS should boycott BART.  Oh boy, would I love to do that.  I really, really would.  However, there is no other way for me to easily get to San Francisco from Walnut Creek (I live across the street from Pleasant Hill BART so I don't even have to pay to park, I just walk across the street) for $10 a day.  I pay my $5 each way and spend under 40 minutes on the train (provided there aren't any track or train issues, which do seem to happen a lot lately).  

I could go to Lafayette (but would have to drive and park) for casual carpool.  I am worried about casual carpool, though, since there is no incentive to bring me back at night since there are no carpool hours or bridge tolls heading to the East Bay.  

At least I got to see the pretty sunrise
I could set up a paid carpool service like Carma, but that would be more expensive and you're still riding with strangers.  Plus, you get dropped off at the bus depot, and that adds three blocks to my already-three-block walk.  Fine in the summer, shitty in the rain.  

I don't believe there is a bus that takes people from Contra Costa to Alameda very easily, so I could drive to Oakland and then take the ferry or AC Transit Transbay bus.  Time consuming.  Requires me to drive and spend gas money.  Probably requires parking fees.  Just not a viable option for me either.

Oh yeah, I could drive...  Probably minimum $25 per day to park, if I find a "cheap" place (the oversize parking fee at the garage near my office charges $50 for over-sized vehicles, and I drive a Toyota Tundra).  Bridge toll.  Gas.  No thanks.

I could get a new job back in the East Bay.  It sure is looking more and more attractive.  

And who do we blame?  Crappy, overpaid negotiators?  Mediators?  BART management?  BART employees?  Greedy unions?  I BLAME THEM ALL!  I am SO effing tired of seeing the union playing the victim in the media.  And even more effing tired of BART's daily e-mails, acting like they're doing EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to avoid a strike and the terrible unions are just taking advantage of them.

There are so many rumors swirling about what the actual hold-up was.  Quite a few people on Twitter mentioned BART tried to add a no-strike clause to the contract at the last minute.  The unions weren't going for that.  Duh.  I hope that someone is backing legislation to make major transit strikes illegal in the future!  I would not be sad if BART fired all of the workers, and we waited the four months to train new ones.  It would certainly be inconvenient, but we would all adapt.  Also, since we are ordering new trains in a few years, maybe it's time to go automated and at least the train operators will be out of work. 

So what will I do?  

I will wait like a stupid bitch for BART to come back online, and then curse those greedy ass employees under my breath as I climb onto my BART train to go to work every day.  Because, even if I'm furious, that is the best option for me. 

Thursday, October 17, 2013

If you have NEVER pole danced...read this blog

Although this month's blog hop is about the sanitization of pole, I am not going to enter this into the hop.  But if you want to read other blogs on the same subject, click HERE

You can read my other two entries below:

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2013/10/october-blog-hop-stripping-stripper-out.html

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2013/10/october-blog-hop-2-sanitization-of-pole.html

I have written many times about pole in the Olympics:

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2010/03/weighing-in-on-debate-pole-dancing-in.html

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2012/05/pole-fitness-and-olympics.html

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2012/06/pole-fitness-versus-pole-dancing.html

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2012/07/how-do-you-get-pole-dancing-into.html

I also have multiple posts discussing the difference between sexy pole dancing and pole fitness or pole sports:

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2011/02/stripping-vs-pole-fitness.html

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2012/01/stripper-versus-pole-dancer-debate.html
  
http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2012/06/pole-fitness-versus-pole-dancing.html

A conversation in the Pole Dancing Bloggers group about International Pole Sports Federation's anti-doping policy for the World Pole Sports Championships (which is a requirement for pole to one day be considered for the Olympics) motivated me to write this post.  Whether we call it pole dance, pole fitness, pole erotic, pole artistic, pole exotic, pole sport, pole entertainment, circus acts, aerial arts, or anything else, aren't we still dancing on a pole?  At the same time, is it wrong that those who want to get pole sport into the Olympics need to distance themselves from those who dance in 8 inch heels?  Likewise, is it wrong for those who dance in heels to be offended by that distance?  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.


Anyway, if you have NEVER pole danced before...but have thought about trying...what draws you to it?  Is it the sexy side?  The dance -- whether you love ballet, jazz, hip hop or modern dance?  The athleticism?

And if you haven't tried pole dance, but REALLY WANT TO, what is holding you back?  

Just curious!  Please leave comments below. 

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Who do I think I am?

I often get asked why I do what I do.  First off, you may be asking yourself, what is it that she does?  Well, let's start with the pole dancing.  Teaching.  Then the blogging.  The "pole ambassador" stuff.  Pole councils and boards.  Showcases and an upcoming competition. 

What are my intentions?  Do I want to be famous?  Do I want to make money?  Do I think I'm such a badass poler and writer that absolutely everyone must meet me?

To be honest?  I don't know.  It started so small, with one simple pole class on December 2, 2009.  Then it turned into a blog in January 2010 -- mostly to chronicle my own journey for myself.  When setting up my blog, there was never a thought that I might actually get a ton of readers.  I thought maybe some of my fellow Twirly Girls might read it and cheer along with me.  There was a realization that girls my size weren't "supposed" to be able to pole and I wanted to prove people wrong.  Then the adventure turned into offers to write for other websites and magazines.  I got to interview pole dancers, both in written and video formats.  I worked with The Pole Dancing Shop and wrote somewhat regularly for them for a year or more.  That opened the door to go to Pole Show LA and do video interviews of some of the performers.  I have been to pole events, then have been able to write about them for Vertical Magazine.  I got invitations to meet with other polers to talk about the industry.  I would get recognized at events as the girl who wrote that blog.  It has all been very fun and exciting.  It has not been profitable whatsoever.  So for now, I'm doing this for the adventure.  I fully recognize I am not the best pole dancer out there -- not by any stretch of the imagination.  I have also been humbled in the last year as I have dealt with a foot injury and subsequent surgery, and have realized how much strength and stamina I lost.  For the most part, what I'm really, really good at is meeting people and putting them together with other people.  I have a full life outside of pole and sometimes it is hard to DO more but I can sure tell you WHO can do what you need done.  

If you read my blog, you know I'm not just about pole dancing.  I also write about my struggles with my weight and food addiction.  I talk openly about family issues, depression and anxiety.  I also talk about fun stuff like Chunky Girl Comics.  I realize that pole is very important to me and to other people, but I also realize that no one is *just* a pole dancer.  So I share those sides of me as well.  I realize that there are a lot of people who go through things thinking they are alone.  And I want you to know that you are not alone.  Even if I over-share a little too much or get overly heated about certain topics, know that my intentions are good and I really do hope that I can inspire people in some way -- whether that is to try pole or some other activity outside of their comfort zone, or to seek help for an eating disorder. 

So, there you go.  Why do I do what I do?  For the fun of it.  There's no big ulterior motive.  I enjoy helping and connecting people and, at the end of the day, I enjoy adventures. 

I would love to know where you heard about me and how we met, if we have met in person.  Please feel free to leave comments below! 

Monday, October 7, 2013

October Blog Hop 2: The Sanitization of Pole

So last week, I participated in the October blog hop by saying, ooooh yeah I'm all over the "sexy" part of pole.  Woohoo!  Take yer shirt off, show me whatcha got!

Then I started reading other people's posts and leaving comments.

Then I felt like a total hypocrite.

Yes, I support dancers being sexy, I support myself being sexy, [whispers] but only in front of certain audiences.  I don't want my boss to find my Bringing Sexy Back Week video!  Sure, I want to put on my stripper heels and short-shorts, but, you know, not in front of my mom.  

Three years ago, my very conservative mom came to pole class with me.  You can read about that adventure in full HERE.  While she attempts to support me, and seemed to have fun in class, I can tell she is not running to her friends to proudly announce her daughter teaches pole dance (or has been published in print magazines on said subject, even though I think it is pretty effing cool). 

Last November's blog hop also talked about coming out of the pole dance closet, which really is touching upon the same subject.  How safe do you need to feel with someone before you tell them that you pole dance?  With certain people, you need it to sound a little more "clean" than with others.  I "came out" to one of my new bosses almost immediately when I started this job a year ago.  One of my other bosses still has no clue.  In her case, it's not that I don't think she can handle it...she's just a person who shares no personal information about herself so I do the same in return.  I have told a handful of my co-workers.  One co-worker, when I was still fairly new here, pranced by my desk and giggled that she knew my secret.  Apparently the recruiter who got me this job was telling people about my past-time.  I was actually really furious.  I felt like it was no one's business to tell anyone else what I did for fun.  At the same time, I'm supposed to be a loud and proud pole dancer, so who cares if she knows?  Anyone who Googles my name probably doesn't have to search long to find the Viking Warrior. 

Anyway, so the reason I feel like a hypocrite...  Yes, I'm a loud and proud pole dancer.  I don't generally care who knows what I do.  Yet I have two Facebook profiles.  When I first started blogging about pole dance and working with a social media company, I thought maybe this could become a business and I friended a lot of pole dancers on Facebook.  My real life friends and family were getting kind of lost in the shuffle.  I also posted a ton of pole dancing articles and photos.  It made some people uncomfortable.  So, I kicked most of them off my page.  Facebook is for fun.  I don't need to be judged by people who can't handle my pastime.  Then one day I found out my uncle had moved to another state.  No one ever bothered to tell me.  So I started up a second (illegal!!) Facebook profile.  I added family and friends (and some co-workers) who might not appreciate how busy my page is.  I call it my boring profile.  I really don't post a ton on that page, but I do also use it to participate in some HAES and fat acceptance groups.  The funny part is that, after a recent issue in the family, I kicked them all off that page too, so now I have only a few family members on either Facebook profile.  Oh well, at least I don't have to see a bunch of conservative stuff on my feed constantly.  I also realize that Facebook doesn't make real-life relationships.  So if my family had any interest in having a relationship with me, they would make an effort off of Facebook.  They don't (and neither do I), so I imagine I will never see most of these people again.   

Last year, I was working with some attorneys on a joint seminar for the local bar association.  We were using Drop Box to share documents.  I was also working on a potential pole council with some other dancers.  We were also using Drop Box.  Oh yes, I Drop Boxed pole documents to the attorneys, and it took me a LONG TIME to figure it out.  I realized one night that I couldn't find my pole documents and eventually figured out what happened.  I quickly moved them into the proper folder, thinking no one would have bothered to look at those documents.  At the next conference call with the attorneys (AND A JUDGE), someone says, so uh what about this pole dancing stuff...  Oh man, the cat is out of the bag.  I explained what I did for fun and they all laughed and we moved on.  That could have seriously gone sideways on me professionally, but they were all very good natured about it.  I felt like this was a sign that pole is becoming more accepted.  

I recently met with a woman who might have a business opportunity for me.  As I was leaving, I mentioned I teach a "dance class."  I froze even as the words left my mouth.  Wait!  I'm not ready to come out to this person yet!  She said, oh yeah I wanted to ask you what kind of dance you teach!  I'm thinking, she must have Googled me, because that question seemed to be in the chamber already.  I didn't hesitate:  I teach pole dance!  I was waiting for the uncomfortable silence, but she said, oh I took some classes in Colorado!  I was so relieved.  Then I was sad that I had to be relieved.  It does make me realize that there is still a stigma attached to the industry, so people make snap judgments.  But it almost made me realize that I don't want to work with people who aren't able to accept me as a whole person.  So I am actually relieved that the subject came up early in our relationship.  

Everyone has to decide for themselves when they are ready for others to know they pole dance.  I don't necessarily think that means that pole needs to be sanitized for the masses.  However, I do believe that as more people accept pole, and it becomes more mainstream, it may sanitize itself in the process. I'm still not sure how I feel about that. 

Are you careful with who you tell about pole dance and do you think it will have to be "sanitized" in order to go mainstream? 

Don't forget, this is a Blog Hop!  Read other blogs on this exact subject HERE.  

Thursday, October 3, 2013

October Blog Hop: Stripping the Stripper out of Pole Dance

This month, the Pole Dancing Bloggers Association is talking about the sanitization of pole dance.  This Trick or Treat blog hop marks the first anniversary of our blog hop!  I feel very fortunate to be surrounded by so many talented pole dancers and writers!  Happy birthday to us!

So back to the topic at hand...I have written on this subject many times before and thought this might be a good time for a recap! 

Way back in March of 2010, I weighed in on the debate about pole in the Olympics.  The push was (and still is, for some groups) to remove the "sexy" from pole in order to make it more palatable for the general population and the Olympics.  My response was, and still is, "meh."  I don't really care if pole dancing makes it into the Olympics.  I now understand what a great undertaking it will be to even have it considered.  The Olympic Games are chosen YEARS in advance, and although there is a group working hard to make it reality, it will probably be another 12 to 16 years before it could even be a possibility.  So, the people who would most likely be competing in the first Olympics to include pole, probably aren't even born yet. 

In February of 2011, I discussed stripping versus pole fitness.  I mostly list other blogs which have discussed the topic, but my general feeling is this:  "...for me to look down on stripping and call myself only a pole fitness enthusiast would be almost disrespectful to the roots of my sport.  I have said on many occasions that if I had a better body and a little more rhythm, I wouldn't be opposed to making some money as a stripper!"

Only a month later, the topic came up again.  Mostly I discuss with myself the reasons that stripping automatically turns into prostitution in some people's minds.  Do all strippers have to get sucked into the dark side of drugs and prostitution?  I had only one person respond to my questions, and I'd love to get more opinions on the subject.

In January of 2012, we were discussing the stripper versus pole dancer debate...again.  In it, I mention my foot in mouth syndrome, and it is where I realize I cannot make everyone happy.  Some people are okay with pole dancing being sexy.  Some people are not.  One of my favorite quotes is from Claire of The Pole Story"If for some reason, the idea of your dancing being connected to the strip club scene is upsetting to you, if you desperately need to distance what you do from what those 'other girls' do, if you truly believe that you are doing this because it’s just a really good workout, then I strongly suggest you spend some time thinking about why you chose pole dancing.  Because there are a million ways to get fit without putting on six inch stilettos, a bikini and swinging sensually around a pole." 


The winning quote of the day, though, came from Shimmy's blog:  "It's completely normal that not everyone will like what you do. As the pole movement gains momentum, and new skills are created, it's going to get harder and harder to impress people. People will become more discerning, and competitive. Sometimes, people will comment on other people's style of dance as a way of defining their own style. An example of this is a traditional 'sexy' pole dancer saying she doesn't like contemporary pole, or a former ballerina saying she hates body rolls and hair flicks. What they're really saying is that they've adopted a particular style as their favourite way to pole dance, to the exclusion of other styles. That's ok too - there's room enough in the pole world for many different ways of pole dancing, and it's quite exciting to see new styles develop and change."

In February of 2012, Twirly Girls was asked to perform for a local radio show.  The show later accused one of our girls of being a "bitter stripper" after she was a little defensive in answering their questions.  I didn't want her to feel attacked but part of me thought, "Who cares if she was a stripper, bitter or not?!  It doesn't make her any less of an amazing pole dancer."  I struggled then, and sometimes do now, to make sure I don't force my own opinions on everyone else:  "I don't want to disconnect from my pole community either.  If it is offensive to some to be called a stripper, am I belittling them by telling them to get over it?  On the other hand, do we owe it to the 'pole fitness' community to explain to the general public that there is a bit of a difference between stripping for dollars and taking classes at a pole fitness studio?  Granted, I like working out and feeling stronger but I really enjoy putting on 'stripper heels' and cute clothes too."

"It seems like a lot of the negativity and disharmony comes from WITHIN our own pole dancing community. Some spend so much time debating the words we should use to describe what we do -- and even more time judging other dancers in the industry.  I think we need to first band together, then we can worry about what the outsiders think."

And, finally in June of 2012, I wrote about the difference between "pole fitness" and "pole dancing."  I also discussed the World Pole Sport Championship, which is part of the push to get pole into the Olympics.  "I feel like pole fitness competitions or showcases usually leave the six inch stilettos out.  They seem to be more tricks/contortion-based.  And I feel like pole dancing competitions should encompass the beauty of the dance, sexy or not, and may or may not include shoes (perhaps this is where the difference between pole art and pole exotic might come in)."

For me, I love the art and the dance.  I also love the strength and flexibility required.  I love Chinese pole, contortion and acrobatics.  I love ballet and jazz and the interesting dance pieces that are being showcased lately.  I love the costumes, crazy make-up and hair styles.  I love the shoes, but I love barefoot dancers too.  I love that women dance.  I love that men dance.  I love it all.  So, be sexy or don't.  Be sexy this routine and not the next.  I think what makes pole amazing is the ability for each performer to bring their own personality to each and every routine.  Also, some of the most memorable routines for me were ones that never won the competition.  However, they were interesting to watch -- some sexy, some not.  Be different.  Be interesting.  Be you.  That's what makes a great pole dancer. 

Sorry this was a long one, but this is a debate we will probably have to endure for the rest of our lives.  How do you feel about being sexy in pole dance?  

To read other blogs on this topic, please click HERE

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Playing with a new layout

I have cleaned up my blog and am playing with new colors, format and layout.  Hope you enjoy it!  Real content coming soon...I just needed to test my connection to Networked Blogs.  ;-)